Sometimes I find it hard not to feel like I’ve let myself go since having the little ones. I’ve only been a mummy for two years and 4 months, and in that time I have managed to create two humans, go me right?
But since having the children I just don’t feel like me anymore, I don’t feel as pretty as I used to feel, i don’t feel as sexy as I sometimes used to feel, I used to feel quite proud of myself and what I’d accomplished in life. Now I feel like everything I do isn’t enough, does anybody else feel that way?
Now I know my face hasn’t completely changed since having children, but I look back at photos of myself when my eldest was only a few months old, and my skin looks more vibrant, I look a lot younger, even know it’s only been two years, and I seem to have more of a twinkle in my eye. I used to make an effort getting ready, always wearing nice new on trend clothes, or at least current season. My underwear was pretty and not full of holes and looked as though they had gone through a wash cycle far too many times. My eyes brows always looked nicely shaped, I always made time to fake tan or have the occasional sun bed.
In order to feel a little more human, and more like the old me. Here is a few things I make sure I do either each day or once a week to give myself a little pamper and not just feel like a mum who has let her self go, but a mum who is trying as hard as she possibly can to keep hold of the person she used to be….
1. Hygiene is key – I make sure I shower every morning. My partner leaves for work at half 7, so every morning I’m in that shower at 7:15 otherwise it should be 11am by the time I finally get one. I really find this wakes me up, tackles any aches I accumulated during the night fighting for space with a wriggly 13 month old.
2. A little make up goes a long way – I honestly feel putting a bit of blusher on my cheeks and a little concealer and mascara on really helps, and puts me in the right mood for the day. I find if I feel like I look a mess, I feel less motivated, less likely to go out and not in a great mood for the rest of the day. However some make up always helps to put a spring in my step!
3. Make sure you always have time for coffee and a slice of toast – My mornings are always so hectic, by the time both toddlers are fed, watered and dressed it’s can be mid morning by the time I get to sit down and have my breakfast and coffee. But no matter what I will always make sure I get that five minutes to myself to browse my social media, drink my coffee and recharge. Also a hungry mummy is a grumpy tired mummy!
4. Read a book – sometimes when my partner has some work to do, he will sit there on his laptop and I will cuddle next to him reading a good book. After all the time we spend on social media, browsing the internet. It’s good to let your mind unwind with a great book.
5. Watch a film or tv series – This is something me and Stu will do mostly every night. We love a good series, a bit of Netflix or a sky box set. We have recently watched a series on Netflix called ozark, which I highly recommend. We managed to watch a whole season in a couple of nights. We always binge watch a series.
6. Put on a face mask and paint your nails – This is something I will do once a week. If i have all this time to watch my tv series when the little ones are in bed, I certainly have time to throw on a face mask and paint my nails at the same time. I’ve recently purchased a body shop face mask called ‘Himalayan charcoal – purifying glow mask‘ and I must say, it does what it says on the tin! For £16 it’s good stuff and temporarily gives me back that healthy fresh glow of youth, highly recommend!
7. Take time out to chat to friends – As a lot of my friends don’t have children yet, most of them are 28/29 and are just settling down. I do find it’s easy to lose contact when life gets in the way. But sometimes in the evening I will make sure I spend some time chatting to friends from time to time. Normally results in me and one of my friends just sending links to beauty products we have recently purchased and fallen in love with.
8. Write a blog or engross in social media– writing a blog is a great way to vent and write about your day, interests or deepest and darkest thoughts. Social media is also full of so many mummy groups or similar interests pages, it’s nice to engage and speak to people with similar interests/ worries/ hobbies as oneself.
9. Treat yourself sometimes– As I mentioned earlier I recently purchased a great face mask from body shop, I do think it is important occasionally to treat yourself, because at the end of the day, we deserve it. Whether it’s that new lipstick you want, a new pair of shoes, replacing the tatty granny knickers or just buying yourself a tub or ice cream. Make sure you do it once in a while. You really will feel better for it. I find I spent all my money buying clothes or toys for the children, and spend very little of it on myself, typical mum!
Thank you for reading, let me know what guys do to relax and unwind when the little ones are sleeping etc.