Here is a list of things, I probably wouldn’t do with my non mummy friends out of fear of judgement, and just the fact that they probably wouldn’t understand…..
Talking about poo!
Unfortunately the stereotype that all new mums talk about is poo, is actually true. I have a 19month old and two year old, both still in nappies so I change a lot of poo on a day to day basis. Sending pictures of your children’s poo to ur mummy friends to ask “does this look normal?” Is a regular occurrence and receiving poo pics from others becomes the norm. Not half hour ago my little boy leaked poo from his nappy onto my jeans…. poo is life!
Admitting to still being in my pjs early afternoon and not showering that day….
So some days getting my ass in gear, especially when I have two poorly children, can be quite hard when I have two toddlers attaching themselves to my legs! So on the odd occasion I do have pj days where I don’t decide to get dressed until early afternoon. I would never admit these things to my non mummy friends out of fear of being judged. There is always that stereotype that stay at home mums just sit on their bums all day!! I’d happily send a pj selfie to my mummy friends though!
Early morning texting….
Before having kids I would never text my friends before 10am on a weekend, and I would mentally swear at anyone who text me early in the morning; but it’s pretty much guaranteed if you both have kids your going to be awake at 7am on a Saturday morning. If you both have young babies, texting during the night feeds also becomes acceptable behaviour to keep each other company and motivate each other to suck it up and push through the tiredness. Tired face selfie competitions are also amusing at 2am!
Food stained clothes is just the norm...
It could be snot, dribble, food or maybe something else?! In the early days as soon as my baby would spit up on me I would instantly go and change, I’m not entirely sure when this stopped. But somewhere between my son and daughter being born, that behaviour stopped. I’m currently sitting here writing this wearing several youghurt stains, do I care? Yes can I be bothered to change?……. NO!
Organising play dates that just never happen….
“We must meet up soon, I haven’t seen you for ages! Bet the little ones would love to see each other”…. this is pretty much as far as it goes in terms of organising a play date, we will constantly moan about the fact we haven’t seen each other in ages but never actually do anything about it, which is completely fine as we both know we have only good intentions to see each other but are incredibly busy. With my non mummy friends, I don’t quite get away with it, I usually get an exact date for meeting, a location….. this shit is really happening , no getting out of it now….which brings me to my next point!
Blowing them out!
To my non mummy friends, I am probably known as emma the let down, as I always cancel plans, before children I would always be the most reliable one but it becomes so hard making plans with two toddlers. This is the exact reason why I’m no longer invited to anything, which used to make me sad but I’ve accepted it now. Whether you have been up all night with a teething toddler, you have very sick little ones or maybe they have passed a bug onto you, being a mummy there are always a thousand different reasons for bailing out, but mummy friends don’t judge and completely understand. Instead of bitching and moaning behind your back, we are capable of rescheduling for another date! I’ve also found since becoming a mum any plans with other mummy friends are normally made weeks in advance!
I hope you enjoyed reading my list, I would be interested to hear what other things you think are only acceptable to other Mum friends.