Life isn’t exactly going to plan for me right now…to help me feel better; I say to myself that I have hit a small bump in the road and things won’t be this way forever. If I could go back and tell the 22 year old me, that in five years I will be a stay at home mummy to two babies, there is no way I would have ever believed it, no way I would stay at home and no way would I have two children so close together…. how stupid?! Why would I do that?! Anyway younger me, you did it and now you are facing the consequences, I am the mummy of a 21 month old little Madame and a 6 month old little man, and my god it’s hard. It’s not as hard as I imagined it to be when I was pregnant with my second, and every single day I was picturing the worst. I was completely petrified when I found out I was pregnant again after having my little girl Ella, and 9 months on I was still completely terrified.
My daughter was and still is a very demanding human being, as a baby she was such hard work, constantly crying all the time, and now as a toddler she hasn’t changed much. So the thought of having another one was not going to happen for a good 3 to 4 more years.
No one was really bothered about me being pregnant again with my second, all the excitement must have got used up on my first pregnancy. Presents, there were none, no one bothered to organise a baby shower this time. Two weeks after having my son no one bothered to come and meet him apart from my mum and little brother and sister. It was a very lonely time, when I needed people the most, I was completely abandoned. After just having a csection and Ella still not walking and constantly wanting to be carried; it was extremely hard.
But luckily my little man is such a little cutie, so placid and laid back, I am very lucky to have him. Ella is still so demanding, she’s very intelligent and I think she is constantly frustrated and hopefully she will get better as her speech gets better and she can communicate properly…… I hope.
Here are a few observations I have made in the six months of being a mummy to two under two.
1. You will never get out the house, but you must try as hard as you can to get out a few times a week to stop yourself from going completely insane.
2. You will never get to pee when you need to, just get over it…. a strong bladder is necessary
3. You will constantly feel guilty, mostly because I feel Ella gets all the attention because she is so demanding.
4. Always have someone with you when visiting supermarkets or going to town, take your mum or friend along or it’s almost impossible to get anything done.
5. They never sleep at the same time so sneaky little naps never happens, your have to sleep when ur old or dead….
6. Routine routine routine is key for getting anything done. You plan to go out… get ready the night before. Do everything in your power to make your experience in the morning as stress free as possible
7. Sometimes it’s just easier to stay in then face the world and the stress that awaits you. Deal with the greater need first, two babies crying, one wants a biscuit and the other smacked themselves in the face with a toy. Deal with the injury first.
8. Never make appointments for first thing in the morning and never try and get anywhere on time. Meeting friends? Never organise anything before 12, you never know what’s going to happen.
9. You will constantly be needed, whether it’s a biscuit, choc choc, cheese, juice, dummy, bottle, poo, teething gel. You will become a slave to the little people. You will have more good days then bad. But the bad days always fall on the days you are home alone.
To all the women who have two little monsters under two…. I applaud you!